Walking by Faith

There comes a point in our Christian growth when God calls us to walk by faith. Walking by faith has two key components - having faith and surrendering. This means that our walk by faith may have a couple of different stages to it (Note: there is no set path from stage to stage, however).

Baby Stage (Low Faith, Low Surrender) - In this baby stage, we do not really trust God, nor have we surrendered ourselves to Him in a significant way. We are walking by faith in name only. This is the typical starting point for most of us. The key indicators of being in this stage is that our life matters a great deal to us and we do not think God can or will take care of us.

There is a second group in this category of low faith and low surrender, but they are not babies in the faith at all. This group consists of people who have such a negative emotional picture of themselves and the Lord that they cannot trust Him or surrender themselves to Him in a significant way. Typically, they are well aware of their struggles and really want things to be different. However, they are in the ICU Stage (Low Faith, Low Surrender) where much healing needs to happen before they can walk by faith.

Self-Sufficient Stage (High Faith, Low Surrender) - When we believe in the goodness of God, but we are not yet ready to lay down our self-will to Him, we are in the self-sufficient stage. It is possible for us to have been Christians for a long time and to be well-regarded by others, and yet still be in this stage. This is especially true if we are very talented or have a lot of worldly wisdom. Because our hearts are so deceitful, it is also possible to live in this stage and not even be aware of it. The key indicators are that we still consider our lives to be important and we still think too highly of ourselves. It is a place of great, albeit subtle, pride.

Wounded Stage (Low Faith, High Surrender) - Frequently, people who have been wounded in the past are willing to surrender themselves to the Lord, but do not have any expectation of receiving anything good from Him. They are willing to pay the cost to follow Jesus, but they walk by faith in not being blessed instead of in being blessed. Because they simply cannot face the disappointment of being let down once again, it is easier to just not expect anything. The key indicators of someone in this stage are unresolved abuse, rejection and authority issues.

Faithful Stage (High Faith, High Surrender) - The person in this stage has embraced the paradox of losing their life to gain it. He or she places no importance on their life anymore - they do not love it even to death. They exist only to serve the Lord. At the same time, this person has discovered the tremendous love that the Father has for them. As a result, they gladly trust Him and have no fear of what may happen.

Notice this, though, what may happen may not be pleasant. The person in the faithful stage is no longer personally invested in how their life turns out. Their life is fully surrendered to God and they have released any claim they may have had on what God does with it. Instead, their satisfaction and success in life is found in the love of the Father - and this allows them to have great faith that whatever the Father does with them is good.

Also keep in mind that the stages presented here are not distinct categories. There are gradients to faith and surrender. Rarely will we find ourselves exactly in one category or another. However, we can begin to see what our dominant tendencies are and ask the Lord to work specifically on those areas so that we can mature in our walk with Him.

Conclusion - The way we grow in being able to walk by faith is simple: The more we know the Father and His love for us, the better we can surrender, the more faith we can have, and the more healing we will experience. So, we don't exert ourselves to generate more faith or greater surrender by ourselves. Instead, we make it our goal to press in to know the Father. As we do that, all the rest gets taken care of.

Freedom in Christ - Free to be Ourselves

I have been spending my time lately contemplating freedom. Here are a few thoughts:

1. We limit our own freedom: Although most of us say we want to be genuine with others, we are often afraid of what others may think. So, rather than be genuine, we perform, presenting to others who we think they want us to be, not who we are.

This masquerade has a couple of unintended consequences. First, we begin to think that we also need to perform for God. We act differently at church than we do at home. We become dishonest in prayer - telling God what we think He wants to hear, not what we actually think or feel. In doing so, we lose the opportunity for a real relationship with God. It all becomes a dry act of religion with no life in it.

Another unintended consequence is that as we get better and better at performing for others, we lose sight of who we are. We begin to identify ourselves with the persona we present to others more than the person that we really are. We become lost. As a result, it becomes increasingly impossible for us to have meaningful relationships with others since who we really are is never a part of the relationship.

2. We limit others freedom. We all have a natural tendency to try to define a person in a particular way. When we make our definition of someone rigid and inflexible, our relationship with them will be limiting on who they are and uncomfortable for them. Probably the best example of this is when we are around family members who have not seen us in a while. When we are together, it feels like they are squeezing us back into who we used to be instead of letting us be who we have become. We notice the discomfort when it is we who are being squeezed. Still, we continue to squeeze others because it would become uncomfortable to us if we were to actually give them the freedom to change.

3. Freedom is found in Christ. The best way to allow ourselves to be who we really are is in a genuine relationship with Jesus. When we know the love of God in a deep and personal way, then our deepest needs for security & belonging are met. Then, we are able to risk being ourselves from a position of strength instead of having to fiercely guard against rejection.

In addition, when we cry out to God to know Him more, He begins to work in us the healing we need to be who we really are. You see, He wants a relationship with us and not any persona we put on. So, seeking intimacy with God calls forth from within us our genuine selves and puts us in a place of emotional security that gives us the courage to live genuinely with others - and to let them be genuine with us. This process is not always as easy or pleasant as it may sound.

Still, perhaps today, Jesus is calling out to us. If you are like me, your genuine self has spent too much time buried away. And now, the Savior is walking up to the tomb, calling out to the Lazarus in each of us, "Come forth!"

4. Freedom is Attractive. Of course, what I have written here is just one aspect of the freedom God gives us. There is much, much more. However, in a world that is hungry for real people, the freedom to be ourselves is perhaps even more appealing to them than the message of salvation. We, as lovers of Jesus who live life genuinely, will naturally call forth to the many Lazarus's we meet. Our own honesty will cry out to them to come forth, too.

Comfort, Stress & Failure

I have come to understand that all of life is stressful. I know that sounds a bit trite, but hold on. Most of us, whether we realize it or not, think that life would be better if we were able to change our circumstances in one way or another. While that is true to some degree, we usually don't think of the new stress we gain from the new circumstances.

There is a stress to being poor and a stress to being rich, a stress to having a lot of responsibilities and a stress to being bossed around. None of us can escape it so we need to find a way to deal with it.

This is where comfort comes in. We all cope with the difficulties in life by seeking comfort. Sometimes, we receive comfort from God directly. Sometimes, it is through other people. Unfortunately, we are also constantly tempted to find comfort in unhealthy ways - for example: food, sex, alcohol, drugs, recreation, television, sports, etc.

Some of these are clearly wrong in themselves, while others seem more benign. The issue is whether our seeking comfort strengthens us to face the stress better or is merely an escape to avoid the stress. Perhaps an afternoon watching a movie is a good thing when you are feeling down. A nightly television zombie-zone because life is so overwhelming is probably not the way God wants us to be comforted.

I think many Christian leaders who have fallen are victims of unhealthy comfort. I do not want to excuse their behavior, nor do I want to say it was not sin. I do want to highlight that they are often subject to a level of stress and spiritual warfare that most of us do not encounter. I wonder if they had had healthy mechanisms for comfort built into their lives whether all of the leaders would have fallen.

In 1 Sam 30, David had just lost his whole family and possessions to Amalekite raiders. To make matters worse, all of his followers did, too, and they were talking of stoning David. In the midst of this great stress, we see in verse 6 that David found strength in the Lord.

God is the God of all comfort (2 Cor 3) and it is He who is our strength. The question is whether we will choose Him as our source of comfort or run after other things.

Emotional Healing

One of those paradoxes in life is that the best healer of emotional wounds is God. However, those same emotional hurts are also the very things that keep us from approaching God for healing. Someone who has been abused and rejected will be afraid of further rejection. A person who has been deeply shamed will experience an even greater sense of shame just thinking about approaching God.

The cure for this is the slow process of coming to terms with Who God really is. Most of our fear of approaching Him comes from the underlying belief that He will hurt us in some way. When we begin to discover that "a bruised reed He will not break" then we are able to trust Him, even just a tiny bit, with our deepest wounds and find healing from them.