Comfort, Stress & Failure

I have come to understand that all of life is stressful. I know that sounds a bit trite, but hold on. Most of us, whether we realize it or not, think that life would be better if we were able to change our circumstances in one way or another. While that is true to some degree, we usually don't think of the new stress we gain from the new circumstances.

There is a stress to being poor and a stress to being rich, a stress to having a lot of responsibilities and a stress to being bossed around. None of us can escape it so we need to find a way to deal with it.

This is where comfort comes in. We all cope with the difficulties in life by seeking comfort. Sometimes, we receive comfort from God directly. Sometimes, it is through other people. Unfortunately, we are also constantly tempted to find comfort in unhealthy ways - for example: food, sex, alcohol, drugs, recreation, television, sports, etc.

Some of these are clearly wrong in themselves, while others seem more benign. The issue is whether our seeking comfort strengthens us to face the stress better or is merely an escape to avoid the stress. Perhaps an afternoon watching a movie is a good thing when you are feeling down. A nightly television zombie-zone because life is so overwhelming is probably not the way God wants us to be comforted.

I think many Christian leaders who have fallen are victims of unhealthy comfort. I do not want to excuse their behavior, nor do I want to say it was not sin. I do want to highlight that they are often subject to a level of stress and spiritual warfare that most of us do not encounter. I wonder if they had had healthy mechanisms for comfort built into their lives whether all of the leaders would have fallen.

In 1 Sam 30, David had just lost his whole family and possessions to Amalekite raiders. To make matters worse, all of his followers did, too, and they were talking of stoning David. In the midst of this great stress, we see in verse 6 that David found strength in the Lord.

God is the God of all comfort (2 Cor 3) and it is He who is our strength. The question is whether we will choose Him as our source of comfort or run after other things.